When I write something here, often times it's a reflection of something that I've been going through. And lately, I've been feeling guilty for being overly critical of others. I did have this great idea of recognizing that the things that you care about also reflect the people who end up surrounding you as a result, but that supposedly great idea actually ended up making me more of recluse. So instead, I became more apprehensive about people in general.
Well, I'm going to confess, I've been getting a lot worse at work this way. Chalk it up to being competitive and a perfectionist, but as if a part-time job couldn't just be simple as it is, I had to make it worse by being a hard-ass on the people I see at work. I do mean, yes, both my coworkers and the customers. But don't get me wrong, I wasn't sipping on the figurative hater-ade on everybody. Just anybody... stupid.
Stupid is probably not the best word that I could use, but it works. It works, because it doesn't just mean anything that is unintelligent. It can just be something that is so irritatingly senseless. Like, agh! I love that bar, but after 10 it just gets stupid busy. I mean to use the word to describe the feeling of how something is just absolutely stupidly ridiculous--and you're left with the repugnant aftertaste of asking WHY, but it was so stupid that there is no reason to explain why, and there will not be any anyways, otherwise stupid wouldn't be described as stupid in the first place.
So yeah, stupid things are the worst. I've been doing a really good job of understanding people who are different than me, who may simply have a different perspective or interest than me--and that is okay. But sometimes its the little things can bother you the most. I think as humans we're better equipped to handle bigger things, while knowing that they are bigger and will probably be worse. For instance, during a huge injury where blood is dripping everywhere, and it seems like everyone else around you is freaking out, but you're just hyped up on adrenaline and endorphin thinking, "Oh. I think my arm might be bleeding." On the other hand, a really annoying and stinging paper cut can leave you screaming at the top of your lungs in a quiet office (with everyone staring at you, no less). I think we're just expected to not notice stupid little things and instead, simply not mind them. Well, can't I have like, a baby aspirin for that at least?
Well, I finally figured it out. Maybe. Hear me out and maybe you can tell me if I'm the one being stupid for this or not. Here's how it goes: You have the choice to be stupid. Not everyone has the choice to be stupid, some make stupid decisions by default. But assuming that stupid doesn't know what stupid is and stupid just does, but you can recognize that stupid is stupid, then you are not stupid. Right? Okay, so you have the choice to not be stupid because you at least recognize what stupid is, and what stupid is not. Otherwise, you wouldn't have been so riled up about the injustice of stupidity, you'd just be wrapped in ignorant bliss. Now that you recognize with me that you have the choice to be stupid, just take in the confidence and comfort in knowing that you made the decision to NOT be stupid. That's great! With this power, you have at least two things to appreciate: (1) Stupid cannot affect you, because you are smarter and with each passing chance to make decisions, you have the ability to make smart decisions and go on in your own life and not let stupid bother you (2) You have made the right decision to be not be stupid, because the choice to throw all caution in the wind and be stupid is still there, but you consciously do not make the decision to do so. So if you want to, go ahead, be stupid too and don't be angry. But since you and I know you're not going to do that, be proud of the decisions you make. We can't really do anything about the stupids of the world, but go ahead, pat yourself on the back for being the better person, and continue keeping on keeping on. Letting yourself get stuck trying to figure out the stupids is--well, ...just plain stupid.
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